For Associates

This is a private page containing information for Associates. If you have any general queries, please contact Catherine Mann, the Liaison Associate, on Otherwise, please use the contact information provided.  From the ‘For Associates’ tab there are links to the Intercessions and Retreats and Quiet Days pages.   If you have any news to share with Associates, would like to contribute to the mailings or you have changed your postal or email address please let the steering group know: or post to Rosey Feuell 14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ                               

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The Community Prayer

The angel said to Mary:  Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.  Luke 1:28

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.  Luke 1:42

Almighty God, by your angel Gabriel you chose Mary to be the mother of our only Son Jesus Christ our Lord, filling her with grace and calling her blessed:  give to us who are gathered into one Community under her name, grace to walk in her footsteps; to be lowly, obedient, faithful, and to say in all things and at all times, “Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord.  Let it be to me according to your word.”  Through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Written by the Founder – William John Butler

Associates’ Guiding Principles

Associates undertake to share in the Community’s life and spirit through:Rhoda statue

  • Regular worship at the Eucharist
  • Daily prayer and Bible reading.
  • Regular intercession for the Community and fellow Associates.
  • Setting aside time for a regular retreat or quiet day.
  • Concern and compassion for the needy.
  • Simplicity of lifestyle and reverence for God’s world.
  • Fellowship and support for the Community and fellow Associates.

Steering Committee:

Rosey Feuell Retreats and Quiet Days. 01223 213305
Catherine Mann Membership Secretary and mailings 01235 798145
Sue Sowden Chair 07926 299954
Sue Thwaite   01235 223554
Debbie Webb   01235 760973 

Bookings for retreats etc to the Guest Wing, please:    Telephone: 01235 763141


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St Mary’s Convent, Wantage.  OX12 9AU

Dear Associates

This comes to let you know that we have changed the date of Associates’ Day to Saturday 11th September 2021 to enable us all to meet together at the Convent post-Lockdown.

The Sisters look forward to welcoming you to the Convent once more, and we are sure you will also appreciate this opportunity to see our newly refurbished Retreat Wing and our new Maribel Centre.  We do hope as many of you as possible will be able to join us.  The building work has now been finished and the rooms refurnished.  The landscaping has been done around our new Reception Area, and the warmly awaited sculpture of Mary and Jesus by Nicholas Mynheer has now arrived and been installed just outside Reception – ready to greet you!

The programme for the Day remains the same as outlined in my Candlemas Letter, and the Associates’ Steering Group are already putting a lot of time and care into arranging the details.  The Day will begin with Coffee from 10 am onwards, followed by an 11.15 am Eucharist at which Fr Philip Wells the Vicar of Wantage will preside and preach.  After this there will be a picnic lunch – spilling out onto the lawn if it is fine.  In the afternoon we are pleased that Sr Stella and Alastair Hunter (until recently the Chair of our Trustees) will be giving a presentation on the Building Project and the ways in which we hope to use and develop our new facilities. 

To make your booking for Associates’ Day (and to stay over if you wish), please contact Jacqui on Reception on:  or  Tel: 01235 763141.

We look forward to having you with us.

With our love and prayer,

      Elizabeth Jane

Sister Elizabeth Jane CSMV

Associates’ Link Sister



Associates’ Contact Details.

In line with GDPR we have been trying to confirm contact details of all Associates.  Those that have responded, and are happy for their details to be shared with other Associates, have been included in a copy of the Directory of Associates which is included with this newsletter.  Please keep it secure and do not share the details outside of the Associates group.  If you have not confirmed your details please can you complete this form or contact the Steering Group (see details on first page). We need confirmation of your address even if you don’t want to be included in the Directory so we can continue to send you news.  If you know of Associates that are not included in the Directory please remind them to contact the Steering Group.



Our Associate Angela Smith died peacefully in St Katharine’s House in Wantage on 22nd February 2021.  May she rest in peace and rise with Christ in glory.

Angela had been an Associate since 1999 and until she moved to St Katharine’s House, she had been a faithful member of St Helen’s Church in Abingdon.

We give thanks for Angela and remember her daughter Sarah at this time.


Convent Update

The Guest wing is nearing completion and is going to now be known as the Retreat wing.

The landscaping around the reception area is finished and is very attractive and welcoming. The stone sculpture is complete and now in place.

The Sisters vaccinations are well underway and they will be saying goodbye to Manna who is leaving CSMV and is returning to Japan at the end of April.


CSMV Associates’ Retreats and Quiet Days 2021

We are looking forward to the Convent Guest Wing reopening in June/July  – and to Associates’ Day at the Convent on 11th September, 2021I am orchestrating remote/off-site events and answering queries from home, but all other bookings/ overnight stays via Guest Wing, please. ( / 01235 763141).

Programme for 2021

We are happy to have held a Lenten Quiet Day online with Revd Mary Harwood in March.  We will think creatively if/when any future restrictions arise. 

Lindisfarne 2021 is sadly cancelled as our retreat house has closed down, but we are rebooked elsewhere for 2022 – see below.* 

Saturday, 3rd July  –  Quiet Day at the Convent: “Resting and Rejoicing”, based on verses from Philippians  – led by (CSMV Oblate) Revd. Antonia Cretney 10am (Eucharist)/11am(start)  – 4pm approx. (Book by 3rd June, 2021)

Tuesday, 28th September   –  Saturday, 2nd October  –  Conducted Retreat at the Convent – speaker, subject etc. to be announced (Book by 28th August)

We are also looking into holding another remote Quiet Day, maybe for Advent. 

Costs of Retreats and Quiet Days:

 Please confirm new rates/deposit required with Guest Wing.

 If you wish to attend something but costs deter you,

please contact me about Bursary Funding.

Donations to Associates’ funds are welcome to support future activities.

Remember you can recommend/book in a friend; we are keen to widen uptake of Associates’ events.  You may be able to attend Oblates’ events too if there are places, though we have had no information since their April bulletin. More later…

Please also see the News/Events/Associates’ pages on, and contact me if things are not clear.  

Programme for 2022 so far:

Associates’ Retreat to Holy Island* is now from 2nd to 6th May, 2022, at Marygate House.  Those already booked in have places; I will run a waiting list in case anyone drops out, or more places become available as restrictions lift. 

  Other events will be arranged in due course.  

Rosey Feuell CSMV Associates’ Retreat Secretary / 01223 213305   14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ  


Further to our prayer focus initiative these are some of the contributions we have received on the theme of Hope.

We hope these will inspire and encourage others to do the same.  The theme now is Forgiveness.
There is no need for illustration, although any form will be welcomed. Also poetry is not the only form of expression desired, recounting an experience, a prayer, a story, or an event.   Please feel free to be as creative as you like in expressing your reflection on the word chosen and send your contributions to Debbie Webb. 3 Castle Gardens, Letcombe Regis, OX12 9RQ


The Snowdrop speaks her promise
As she gently bows her head.
With winter all around us she speaks of spring ahead
Her white and trembling bell
Calls us to stand strong,
For the light of her arrival,
Gives our heart its hopeful song.

Debbie Webb


From The Darkling Thrush  

BY THOMAS HARDY    written 31st December, 1900

At once a voice arose among
     The bleak twigs overhead
In a full-hearted evensong   
    Of joy illimited;
An aged thrush, frail, gaunt, and small,   
    In blast-beruffled plume,
Had chosen thus to fling his soul   
    Upon the growing gloom.

So little cause for carolings
      Of such ecstatic sound
Was written on terrestrial things   
   Afar or nigh around,
That I could think there trembled through    
  His happy good-night air
Some blessed Hope, whereof he knew
      And I was unaware.


This Breathless Earth

We bolted every door but even so
We couldn’t catch our breath for very fear:
Fear of their knocking at the gate below,
Fear that they’d find and kill us even here.
Though Mary’s tale had quickened all our hearts
Each fleeting hope just deepens your despair:
The panic grips again, the gasping starts,
The drowning, and the coming up for air.
Then suddenly, a different atmosphere,
A clarity of light, a strange release,
And, all unlooked for, Christ himself was there
Love in his eyes and on his lips, our peace.
So now we breathe again, sent forth, forgiven,
To bring this breathless earth a breath of heaven.

Malcolm Guite


Prayers for after Easter

Voice 1:  It is some time now since Easter. Those were heady days. Our Risen Lord was fresh from his grave, and all creation sang a new song. But now April moves on, a new term’s work for some; several more months before the holidays; another late blast of winter; ordinary Sundays of ordinary worship; the dull hand of unexpectant prayer.

Voice 2:  Christians, think again. Why do you seek the living among the dead?

Voice 1:  Lord we must be looking in the wrong places. Open our eyes to see you, alive and smiling, in the heart of our worship, in the word of the preacher, in the lift of the music, in the taste of the sacrament. Help us stand on tiptoe as we listen, sing and pray. Knowing that at any moment we may be touched by your hand and raised up from our dull vision.

Voice 2:  Christians, think again. Why do you seek the living among the dead?

Voice 1:  The world is weary, and so soon after its Lord was raised.
There is heartache throughout the world in the ongoing pandemic and particularly in India and…..
There is conflict in so many places and particularly in matters of race, discrimination and …..
There is hunger and thirst, and huge inequality of provision
So soon we lose the Easter hope of a new creation, and a new people energized to love in the world’s dark places. We look at our past failures to cope and we expect more of the same. Teach us hope and give us joy as we dare to think new thoughts and devise new plans for your suffering children.

Voice 2:  Christians, think again. Why do you seek the living among the dead?

Voice 1: Forgive us, Lord, for our cynicism about politics and our politicians. We expect so little of them it is not surprising they live up to those expectations. Help us instead to seek the living amongst the living, living hope among living political systems. Make us prayerful and supportive of our politicians, especially now as they face such hard decisions and the impossibility of always getting things right and pleasing everyone.

Voice 2:  Christians, think again. Why do you seek the living among the dead?

Voice 1:  Lord, we often tell you how little you can do in a situation, asking you to bring a little comfort here and a little healing there. We seek your help in the dry world of our dead expectations. Instead we ask you at this time to be our living Lord in our living hope for the whole of you wonderful creation.

               Silent before you now, we pray for our special situations and special people, with expectancy in our prayers…………..

Voice 2:  Lord, we promise to think again. We will pray in hope and expectation. We will seek your living presence, not among the tombs, but in the bustling heart of life. And we know we will see you there, in Galilee, for you will be there before us. We will no more seek the living among the dead,

For you are risen. Alleluia!

 Almighty God, by your angel Gabriel you chose Mary to be the mother of our only Son Jesus Christ our Lord, filling her with grace and calling her blessed:  give to us who are gathered into one Community under her name, grace to walk in her footsteps; to be lowly, obedient, faithful, and to say in all things and at all times, “Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord.  Let it be to me according to your word.”  Through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Written by the Founder – William John Butler



The Associates Steering Group will be praying for the Sisters CSMV and all Associates particularly at 12:30 and 5pm each day, the Sisters time for Sext and Vespers.  Perhaps you would like to join us wherever you are.

If you are feeling isolated or would like someone to talk to please feel free to contact one of the steering group.

Please remember in your prayers sick or infirm Associates:

Jane King-Wilkinson, Nona Jennings, Pamela Box, Elizabeth Bridges, Jasmine Hoban, Judith Brooke



Facebook group:

If you would like to be part of a private Facebook page (only accessible for Associates – a virtual ‘Regional’ group) please contact Catherine Mann at   You will then be sent details of how to join this group kindly maintained by Wendy Carey.


Renewal of Promise for Associates of CSMV

As part of the afternoon session on Associates’ Day those present renewed their promise with these words.  

Associates’ Link Sister:
   In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, Amen
Associates Link Sister:
   As you renew your promise as Associates, let us pray for ourselves and for all Associates unable to be with us today.
   Do you each wish to continue to be united in prayer and fellowship with the Community of St Mary the Virgin as an Associate?
Associates: I do

   Associates Link Sister:
Let us say the Beatitudes together:

   Blessed are the poor in Spirit
For theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven

   Blessed are those who mourn
For they shall be comforted

   Blessed are the meek
For they shall inherit the earth

   Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
For they shall be satisfied

   Blessed are the merciful
For they shall obtain mercy

   Blessed are the pure in heart
For they shall see God

   Blessed are the peacemakers
For they shall be called the children of God

   Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven

   Let us pray:
All: Our Father in Heaven ……..

Associates’ Link Sister:
Almighty Father, by your Holy Spirit the Blessed Mary Virgin received grace to believe and obey your word; send your Spirit on all Associates and on all the Sisters of this Community that, being filled with your grace, we may proclaim your greatness and rejoice to follow your Son Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, One God, now and forever. Amen.

All: The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the Fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us all evermore. Amen.


Donations                                2016 Review of Donations

We are very grateful for your donations at Candlemas to give thanks for the work of CSMV. They enable us to offer retreats at a reasonable cost and to keep you in close contact with the Convent through:

    • A quarterly mailing of news, prayers and details of retreats
    • Paying for Retreat Directors and other expenses for retreats
    • Offering Retreat bursaries to help those on a low income
    • The full cost of running the Associates’ Day
  • Some expenses incurred by the Steering Committee, e.g. travel costs

We have reviewed the way we currently deal with donations and have decided to simplify the arrangements.

In future, please would you send all cheques, gift aid forms and standing order forms directly to the Bursary, (Mrs N Miles,  Bursary Clerk,  St Mary’s Convent,  Wantage  OX12 9AU) so that we can bank donations more quickly. Please make your cheques payable to ‘CSMV’ and write ‘Associates’ on the back. 

We always look forward to reading the correspondence you send us and hope you will still send letters with your cheques – these will be forwarded to Rosey Feuell who would be delighted to hear from you at any time.


Guest Wing price increase letter to Ob-Ass Aug 2017

Guest Wing Rates effective Fri 1st Sept 2017

Conc Rates Mon 2nd Oct


We give thanks for the continuing inspiration and witness of the Religious Life, and for those of you who, as Associates, witness to the values of the Religious Life in your own lives.  Indeed as you ponder your own commitment and link with CSMV, you may like to reflect upon the following questions:

What is important to me today about being a CSMV Associate?

If I were to commend being a CSMV Associate to others, what would I say?



Previous mailings:

2021 May    2021 February   

2020 November  Associates Day Service June 2020   2020 April  2020 February

2019 October   2019 April   2019 February

2018 December    2018 August     2018 April    2018 February

2017 November    2017 August    2017 May    2017 February

2016 November     2016 August    2016 May    2016 February