For Associates

This is a private page containing information for Associates. If you have any general queries, please contact Catherine Mann, the Liaison Associate, on Otherwise, please use the contact information provided.  From the ‘For Associates’ tab there are links to the Intercessions and Retreats and Quiet Days pages.   If you have any news to share with Associates, would like to contribute to the mailings or you have changed your postal or email address please let the steering group know: or post to Rosey Feuell 14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ                               

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The Community Prayer

The angel said to Mary:  Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.  Luke 1:28

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.  Luke 1:42

Almighty God, by your angel Gabriel you chose Mary to be the mother of our only Son Jesus Christ our Lord, filling her with grace and calling her blessed:  give to us who are gathered into one Community under her name, grace to walk in her footsteps; to be lowly, obedient, faithful, and to say in all things and at all times, “Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord.  Let it be to me according to your word.”  Through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Written by the Founder – William John Butler

Associates’ Guiding Principles

Associates undertake to share in the Community’s life and spirit through:Rhoda statue

  • Regular worship at the Eucharist
  • Daily prayer and Bible reading.
  • Regular intercession for the Community and fellow Associates.
  • Setting aside time for a regular retreat or quiet day.
  • Concern and compassion for the needy.
  • Simplicity of lifestyle and reverence for God’s world.
  • Fellowship and support for the Community and fellow Associates.

Steering Committee:

Rosey Feuell Retreats and Quiet Days. 01223 213305
Catherine Mann Membership Secretary and mailings 01235 798145
Sue Sowden Chair 07926 299954
Sue Thwaite   01235 223554
Debbie Webb   01235 760973 

Bookings for retreats etc to the Guest Wing, please:    Telephone: 01235 763141


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St Mary’s Convent, Wantage.  OX12 9AU


Please consider if you would like to join our Quiet Days and Retreats – see the Retreats page.

Book as soon as you are able.  Please hold them in your prayers.



Welcome to new Associate:

We are delighted to be admitting the Revd Steve Wood as an Associate on Thursday 5th August in St Mary Magdalen’s Chapel.

 Steve writes:       My earliest education was as a day boy at St. Clare’s Catholic Convent in Clacton on Sea, a Franciscan order which introduced me to a pattern of regular prayer and an early glimpse of the contemplative life. Following a spell as a specialist librarian, a  long secular commercial career permitted me to travel widely, notably to India and China and much of South Asia. I am married to Frances and have four grown up children. Late in life, I was ordained in the diocese of St. Albans in 2007 serving a non-stipendiary curacy in Hitchin, then a full time incumbency in Streatley Bedfordshire before moving to north Norfolk to look after five coastal parishes in 2019.

I have taken an annual retreat at the Convent for several years now and particularly appreciate the rhythm of prayer, the chapels, the libraries and the silence. While all of this nourishes my present ministry, as I approach retirement I anticipate offering more time to the Convent of St. Mary the Virgin and perhaps establishing links with Pune which I would like to revisit. I look forward to meeting other Associates as time and opportunity allows and becoming a more connected part of this sustaining community of prayer.    

We look forward to Steve’s fellowship with us.  His contact details are:

The Revd Steve Wood,  The Rectory, Burnham Market.  Norfolk.  Tel:  01328 259 316


Vonnie Chantler  RIP

Our Associate Vonnie Chantler died peacefully at home on Saturday 5th June.  She had been ill for some time, but had been lovingly cared for by her husband David and their family, for whom we pray now.  Vonnie became an Associate in 2007 and was a familiar face at Associates’ Day and Associate Retreats.  Vonnie’s funeral took place at Holy Trinity, Prestwood on 23rd June.  May she rest in peace and rise with Christ in glory.


CSMV Associates’ Retreats and Quiet Days 2021


Tuesday, 28th September  –  Saturday, 2nd October  Conducted Retreat at the Convent: “Angels: Messengers of Good News” led by Revd Canon Toby Wright, Team Rector of Witney Benefice, Warden of CSMV   Book with Guest Wing by 28th August

Remote pre-Advent Quiet Day: Journey to Bethlehem on (probably) Saturday, 13th November, led on zoom by Angela Fielding and Rosey Feuell    (£25 donation suggested to CSMV)   Book with Rosey by 1st November


Costs of Retreats and Quiet Days:

Please check the new rates/deposit required with the Guest Wing.

Bursary funding may be available (Associates only) if costs deter you.   Donations to Associates’ funds are welcome to support future activities.

Remember you can recommend/book in a friend; we are keen to widen uptake of Associates’ events.  You may be able to attend Oblates’ events too if there are places, though there is no current information.

Please also see the News/Events/Associates’ pages on, and contact me if you have any queries. 

Programme for 2022 so far:

Associates’ Retreat to Holy Island is now from 2nd to 6th May, 2022, at Marygate House.  Those already booked in have places; I will run a waiting list in case anyone drops out.  More places may become available as restrictions lift.   (Enquiries direct to Rosey, please) 

  Other events will be arranged in due course.  

Rosey Feuell CSMV Associates’ Retreat Secretary / 01223 213305   14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ  


Prayer Focus – Forgiveness

“Those who cannot forgive others break the bridge over which they themselves must pass‘
Confucius  Sent by Sophia Atkins

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I will meet you there.  Rumi  Sent by Debbie Webb

Please feel free to be as creative as you like in expressing your reflection on the word chosen and send your contributions to Debbie Webb. 

Or post to: 3 Castle Gardens, Letcombe Regis, OX12 9RQ.


Please remember in your prayers our sick or infirm Associates:  Judith Brooke, Pamela Box, Elizabeth Bridges, Jasmine Hoban, Mary Mulligan, Rosemary Jenkins, Nona Jennings.


Associates’ Contact Details.

In line with GDPR we have been trying to confirm contact details of all Associates.  Those that have responded, and are happy for their details to be shared with other Associates, have been included in a copy of the Directory of Associates which you should have received but will be updated annually.  Please keep it secure and do not share the details outside of the Associates group.  If you have not confirmed your details please can you complete this form or contact the Steering Group (see details on first page). We need confirmation of your address even if you don’t want to be included in the Directory so we can continue to send you news.  If you know of Associates that are not included in the Directory please remind them to contact the Steering Group.


The Associates Steering Group will be praying for the Sisters CSMV and all Associates particularly at 12:30 and 5pm each day, the Sisters time for Sext and Vespers.  Perhaps you would like to join us wherever you are.

If you are feeling isolated or would like someone to talk to please feel free to contact one of the steering group.

Please remember in your prayers sick or infirm Associates:

Jane King-Wilkinson, Nona Jennings, Pamela Box, Elizabeth Bridges, Jasmine Hoban, Judith Brooke



Facebook group:

If you would like to be part of a private Facebook page (only accessible for Associates – a virtual ‘Regional’ group) please contact Catherine Mann at   You will then be sent details of how to join this group kindly maintained by Wendy Carey.


Renewal of Promise for Associates of CSMV

As part of the afternoon session on Associates’ Day those present renewed their promise with these words.  

Associates’ Link Sister:
   In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, Amen
Associates Link Sister:
   As you renew your promise as Associates, let us pray for ourselves and for all Associates unable to be with us today.
   Do you each wish to continue to be united in prayer and fellowship with the Community of St Mary the Virgin as an Associate?
Associates: I do

   Associates Link Sister:
Let us say the Beatitudes together:

   Blessed are the poor in Spirit
For theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven

   Blessed are those who mourn
For they shall be comforted

   Blessed are the meek
For they shall inherit the earth

   Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
For they shall be satisfied

   Blessed are the merciful
For they shall obtain mercy

   Blessed are the pure in heart
For they shall see God

   Blessed are the peacemakers
For they shall be called the children of God

   Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven

   Let us pray:
All: Our Father in Heaven ……..

Associates’ Link Sister:
Almighty Father, by your Holy Spirit the Blessed Mary Virgin received grace to believe and obey your word; send your Spirit on all Associates and on all the Sisters of this Community that, being filled with your grace, we may proclaim your greatness and rejoice to follow your Son Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, One God, now and forever. Amen.

All: The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the Fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us all evermore. Amen.


Donations                                2016 Review of Donations

We are very grateful for your donations at Candlemas to give thanks for the work of CSMV. They enable us to offer retreats at a reasonable cost and to keep you in close contact with the Convent through:

    • A quarterly mailing of news, prayers and details of retreats
    • Paying for Retreat Directors and other expenses for retreats
    • Offering Retreat bursaries to help those on a low income
    • The full cost of running the Associates’ Day
  • Some expenses incurred by the Steering Committee, e.g. travel costs

We have reviewed the way we currently deal with donations and have decided to simplify the arrangements.

In future, please would you send all cheques, gift aid forms and standing order forms directly to the Bursary, (Mrs N Miles,  Bursary Clerk,  St Mary’s Convent,  Wantage  OX12 9AU) so that we can bank donations more quickly. Please make your cheques payable to ‘CSMV’ and write ‘Associates’ on the back. 

We always look forward to reading the correspondence you send us and hope you will still send letters with your cheques – these will be forwarded to Rosey Feuell who would be delighted to hear from you at any time.


Guest Wing price increase letter to Ob-Ass Aug 2017

Guest Wing Rates effective Fri 1st Sept 2017

Conc Rates Mon 2nd Oct


We give thanks for the continuing inspiration and witness of the Religious Life, and for those of you who, as Associates, witness to the values of the Religious Life in your own lives.  Indeed as you ponder your own commitment and link with CSMV, you may like to reflect upon the following questions:

What is important to me today about being a CSMV Associate?

If I were to commend being a CSMV Associate to others, what would I say?



Previous mailings:       and latest Directory (Aug 2021)

2021 July        2021 May    2021 February   

2020 November  Associates Day Service June 2020   2020 April  2020 February

2019 October   2019 April   2019 February

2018 December    2018 August     2018 April    2018 February

2017 November    2017 August    2017 May    2017 February

2016 November     2016 August    2016 May    2016 February