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This is a private page containing information for Associates. If you have any general queries, please contact Catherine Mann, the Liaison Associate, on Otherwise, please use the contact information provided.  From the ‘For Associates’ tab there are links to the Intercessions and Retreats and Quiet Days pages.   If you have any news to share with Associates, would like to contribute to the mailings or you have changed your postal or email address please let the steering group know: or post to Rosey Feuell 14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ                               

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The Community Prayer

The angel said to Mary:  Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.  Luke 1:28

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.  Luke 1:42

Almighty God, by your angel Gabriel you chose Mary to be the mother of our only Son Jesus Christ our Lord, filling her with grace and calling her blessed:  give to us who are gathered into one Community under her name, grace to walk in her footsteps; to be lowly, obedient, faithful, and to say in all things and at all times, “Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord.  Let it be to me according to your word.”  Through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Written by the Founder – William John Butler

Associates’ Guiding Principles

Associates undertake to share in the Community’s life and spirit through:Rhoda statue

  • Regular worship at the Eucharist
  • Daily prayer and Bible reading.
  • Regular intercession for the Community and fellow Associates.
  • Setting aside time for a regular retreat or quiet day.
  • Concern and compassion for the needy.
  • Simplicity of lifestyle and reverence for God’s world.
  • Fellowship and support for the Community and fellow Associates.

Steering Committee:

Rosey Feuell Retreats and Quiet Days. 01223 213305
Catherine Mann Membership Secretary and mailings 01235 798145
Sue Sowden Chair 07926 299954
Sue Thwaite   01235 223554
Debbie Webb   01235 760973 

Bookings for retreats etc to the Guest Wing, please:    Telephone: 01235 763141


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St Mary’s Convent, Wantage.  OX12 9AU

Dear Associates

Greetings for Candlemas 2021

As we begin a new year, it feels so important to keep alive a sense of hope.  Indeed, I am reminded of the well-known quote used by King George VI in one of his Christmas broadcasts:

“I said to the man standing at the gate of the year, ‘Give me light that I may tread safely into the unknown.’  And he replied, ‘Step into the darkness, put your hands into the hands of God, and that will be better to you than a light and safer than a known way.’”     George Shinn

Here at the Convent our newly refurbished Guest Wing is nearing completion, and we look forward to welcoming you all once more, when the Covid-19 restrictions are lifted.  

We are also very pleased to let you know that we have very recently elected the Revd Canon Toby Wright to be our new Warden.  Fr Toby is currently rector of Witney and we are looking forward to having him alongside us.  He writes:

“You may have read elsewhere that I have been elected by the Sisters as the new Warden, to succeed the Ven Caroline BasRev'd Toby Wrightton.  It is a joy to take up the mantle and to draw alongside the Community in this important way.  The task is to be a confident to the Sister in Charge in an advisory capacity, to be available to all the Community and to be aware of the wellbeing of the Sisters and staff.  I hope that I might also have an opportunity to meet with the Associates at some point, if that would be welcome. I realise how important you and the Oblates are to the life of the Community.  Having been a Trustee for a number of years, I have been heavily involved in the ongoing building works and it will be a joy to be able to open the Convent up to visitors again in the coming months.  I hope you will all find it has kept the best of the past and also equipped the buildings for the future.

I treasure the Community deeply and am honoured to have been asked to undertake this ministry. Please pray for me, as I will for you.”

We are most grateful to Caroline Baston for the way she has accompanied us so sensitively and supportively over these past seven years.  We will miss her, but we know that she will remain a friend.

Our Associates’ Day on Saturday 19th June [ Date now changed to 11th September ] will be a lovely opportunity for you to visit us once more and to see the newly refurbished Guest Wing and  Reception Area together with the new Maribel Centre.  We are very pleased that Sr Stella and Alastair Hunter (Chair of our Trustees) will be giving a presentation on the project and the ways in which we hope to use and develop our new facilities.  We do hope as many of you as possible will be able to be with us on this day.

As Fr Philip Wells – vicar of Wantage wasn’t able to be with us in person last year (you may remember the excellent sermon he gave via You Tube), we are delighted that he has accepted our invitation to preside and preach for us this year.  Associates’ Day will therefore begin with a Eucharist at 11.15 am followed by a picnic lunch – spilling out onto the lawn if it is fine.  The Day will end with Tea, and there will be plenty of overnight accommodation available.

If you would like to come to Associates’ Day, please book your place directly with our Guest Wing on:   or  Tel:  01235 763141.  

We are sorry that due to the Lockdown restrictions it is not possible to invite you to our Candlemas Eucharist, but we know you will be with us in spirit, as we will also be with you.  As many of you know, Candlemas marks the formal beginning of CSMV in 1850 and is therefore our Community birthday!  Candlemas is also the time when Associates have customarily sent a donation as a “thank offering”.   If you feel able to continue this tradition, we suggest £15 is an acceptable amount which covers the cost of Retreat/Quiet Day Conductors’ Expenses, Bursaries for any Associates needing help to come on a Retreat, Steering Group Travel Expenses, together with sending out the Quarterly Newsletter and Annual News by post.  Please send your donations directly to:  

The Bursary Clerk, St Mary’s Convent, Wantage.  OX12 9AU


This comes wishing you every blessing for the year ahead.

With my love and prayer,

     Elizabeth Jane

Sister Elizabeth Jane CSMV

Associates’ Link Sister



Sr Elizabeth Jane writes:

RIP Sister Honor Margaret CSMV

Our Sister Honor Margaret, aged 96, in the 65th year of Life Profession, died on Sunday 13th September at about 1pm from a brain bleed in the JR Hospital, Oxford, after two and a half days of care. We were able to visit her in pairs freely at any time (with no masks needed by her bed) and experienced caring and sensitive staff. On the evening Sister Honor Margaret entered A&E she was entirely herself except for some difficulty in finishing sentences. The next day she had no speech but could communicate with nods and smiles. The two sisters visiting her sang a Respond for a Religious and she mouthed the words with them. The following day she was withdrawn with eyes closed, but we continued to give loving messages and played her a recording of a Bach performance. The next day, Sunday, we anointed her and prayed for her to be welcomed into heaven. Twenty to thirty minutes after we left, her free and independent soul departed to the life beyond.

Honor has been an increasingly wise, friendly and sometimes challenging presence for us since she’s been on our Convent Infirmary Wing. She will be greatly missed by her Sisters, her family and close friends and by those who have cared for her on St Raphael’s Wing. May she rest in peace.

Sr Honor Margaret’s Requiem took place at St Mary’s Convent on Wednesday 30th September at 11 am, followed by Cremation.  Sadly – due to the current social distancing restrictions, we were not able to welcome any visitors to the Requiem. 


CSMV Associates’ Retreats and Quiet Days 2021

Associates Day: Saturday 19th June 2021  Now changed to Saturday 11th September 2021

We are looking forward to the reopening of the Convent Guest Wing around/after Associates’ Day on Saturday, 11th September, 2021.  We hope to be able to provide an online and postal version for those unable to travel.  We recommend staying in touch with the Guest Wing about visits and overnight stays. / 01235 763141

We are excited by the popularity of 2020’s online Quiet Day and Conducted Retreat and will think creatively if/when any future restrictions arise. 

Programme for 2021

Some details to be confirmed/enlarged later



A Quiet Day is to be held for Associates and others  on Saturday 20th March, 2021 from 11.00am to 3.30pm by Zoom.

The Quiet Day Leader is the Revd Mary Harwood, who is a retired priest working in the Ridgeway Benefice just outside Wantage, a Spiritual Director, and an Oblate of the CSMV Community.

There will be three sessions looking at:  Jesus our Compass,     Jesus our Shelter,     and  Jesus our Refreshment

Please book with Rosey Feuell, Associates Retreat Secretary; up to 40 places.  /  01223 213305.   We would be grateful for donations to cover CSMV/Associates’ costs: £20 suggested, by cheque to CSMV – or by  BACS – details from Rosey if required.  


The Oblate Council would like to invite Associates to join their spring retreat 8th-10th April:

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Oblate Creative Online Retreat via Zoom


Date: 8-10 April 2021 midday to midday

Places: limited to 17.  Booking open to Associates from 13 March 21

Cost: £45 per person

To book: or any queries, please contact Susan Blagden (Council)

Upon receipt of booking a small list of materials that might be useful will be emailed to you.


Monday, 3rd to Friday, 7th May (postponed from 2020 – and now postponed again)  Retreat at Open Gate, Holy Island of Lindisfarne.  All those already booked in are assured of places.  3 or 4 further places may be available, so please ask Rosey if you would like details of costs, programme and ongoing preparatory material. Rosey is running this event direct so please contact Rosey with any enquiries.

Saturday, 3rd July  –  Quiet Day at the Convent  –  10/11am – 4pm approx.  – speaker, Antonia Cretney   (Book with Guest Wing by 3rd June, 2021)

Tuesday, 28th September   –  Saturday, 2nd October  –  Conducted Retreat at the Convent – speaker, subject and costs to be notified (Book with Guest Wing by 28th August) Rosey Feuell – Associates’ Retreat Secretary 


Costs of Retreats and Quiet Days: If you wish to attend something but costs deter you, please contact Rosey about Bursary Funding.

Donations to Associates funds are also welcome to support future activities. 

Remember you can recommend/book in a friend; we are keen to widen uptake of Associates’ events.  There may be Oblates’ events you can attend too if there are places, though we have no current information.

Please also see the News/Events/Associates’ pages on, and contact me if things are not clear.  


Rosey Feuell CSMV Associates’ Retreat Secretary           01223 213305  

14 Wolsey Way Cambridge CB1 3JQ


At the time of Candlemas:

Simeon took Jesus in his arms and praised God, saying,
‘Master, now you are dismissing your servant in peace, according to your word; for my eyes have seen your salvation, which you have prepared in the presence of all peoples,

O Lord, who fulfilled the hopes of Simeon and Anna that they might live to greet the coming of the Messiah: grant that we, who have received these inexpressible gifts, may be prepared to meet Christ Jesus when he shall come to bring us to eternal life; for he lives and reigns, now and for ever. CW



The Associates Steering Group will be praying for the Sisters CSMV and all Associates particularly at 12:30 and 5pm each day, the Sisters time for Sext and Vespers.  Perhaps you would like to join us wherever you are.

If you are feeling isolated or would like someone to talk to please feel free to contact one of the steering group.

Please remember in your prayers sick or infirm Associates:

Jane King-Wilkinson, Nona Jennings, Pamela Box, Elizabeth Bridges, Jasmine Hoban, Judith Brooke



Facebook group:

If you would like to be part of a private Facebook page (only accessible for Associates – a virtual ‘Regional’ group) please contact Catherine Mann at   You will then be sent details of how to join this group kindly maintained by Wendy Carey.


Renewal of Promise for Associates of CSMV

As part of the afternoon session on Associates’ Day those present renewed their promise with these words.  

Associates’ Link Sister:
   In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, Amen
Associates Link Sister:
   As you renew your promise as Associates, let us pray for ourselves and for all Associates unable to be with us today.
   Do you each wish to continue to be united in prayer and fellowship with the Community of St Mary the Virgin as an Associate?
Associates: I do

   Associates Link Sister:
Let us say the Beatitudes together:

   Blessed are the poor in Spirit
For theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven

   Blessed are those who mourn
For they shall be comforted

   Blessed are the meek
For they shall inherit the earth

   Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
For they shall be satisfied

   Blessed are the merciful
For they shall obtain mercy

   Blessed are the pure in heart
For they shall see God

   Blessed are the peacemakers
For they shall be called the children of God

   Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven

   Let us pray:
All: Our Father in Heaven ……..

Associates’ Link Sister:
Almighty Father, by your Holy Spirit the Blessed Mary Virgin received grace to believe and obey your word; send your Spirit on all Associates and on all the Sisters of this Community that, being filled with your grace, we may proclaim your greatness and rejoice to follow your Son Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, One God, now and forever. Amen.

All: The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the Fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us all evermore. Amen.


Donations                                2016 Review of Donations

We are very grateful for your donations at Candlemas to give thanks for the work of CSMV. They enable us to offer retreats at a reasonable cost and to keep you in close contact with the Convent through:

    • A quarterly mailing of news, prayers and details of retreats
    • Paying for Retreat Directors and other expenses for retreats
    • Offering Retreat bursaries to help those on a low income
    • The full cost of running the Associates’ Day
  • Some expenses incurred by the Steering Committee, e.g. travel costs

We have reviewed the way we currently deal with donations and have decided to simplify the arrangements.

In future, please would you send all cheques, gift aid forms and standing order forms directly to the Bursary, (Mrs N Miles,  Bursary Clerk,  St Mary’s Convent,  Wantage  OX12 9AU) so that we can bank donations more quickly. Please make your cheques payable to ‘CSMV’ and write ‘Associates’ on the back. 

We always look forward to reading the correspondence you send us and hope you will still send letters with your cheques – these will be forwarded to Rosey Feuell who would be delighted to hear from you at any time.


Guest Wing price increase letter to Ob-Ass Aug 2017

Guest Wing Rates effective Fri 1st Sept 2017

Conc Rates Mon 2nd Oct


We give thanks for the continuing inspiration and witness of the Religious Life, and for those of you who, as Associates, witness to the values of the Religious Life in your own lives.  Indeed as you ponder your own commitment and link with CSMV, you may like to reflect upon the following questions:

What is important to me today about being a CSMV Associate?

If I were to commend being a CSMV Associate to others, what would I say?



Previous mailings:

2021 February

2020 November  Associates Day Service June 2020   2020 April  2020 February

2019 October   2019 April   2019 February

2018 December    2018 August     2018 April    2018 February

2017 November    2017 August    2017 May    2017 February

2016 November     2016 August    2016 May    2016 February